August 21, 2010

THREE!!

(pictures to be added shortly)

Wow, can't believe my first baby is 3! Time has sure flown by! Kayla is full of energy and full of life and constantly keeps us on our toes.

She knows her numbers and letters and colors. About a month ago she started waking up earlier than normal (normal is about 8), so I told her that if she woke up and the first number on the clock was an 8, then it was ok to call me and get up. If it was not an 8, then she needed to either go back to sleep, or rest quietly in her bed until there is an 8 there. With one exception (when she woke up at 6:08 and said, "there's an 8!") she is actually adhering to that rule, and is calling for me after 8 - yeah! This conversation also prompted her to frequently ask what time it is during the day, so she is starting to get an awareness of time.

Speaking of sleep, she typically is up at 8am. We have a quiet time from approximately 2-4 in the afternoons, but she actually naps only maybe 2 out of 7 days in the week. But she is able to read her books and play with her stuffed animals and in general is able to keep quiet during those 2 hours. Bedtime routine starts between 8-8:30, maybe a tad later on days when she took a late nap.

She is potty trained, really not having accidents at all. She even tells me in the bath if she needs to go! However, peeing in the water apparently is acceptable to her if we are in a pool, the ocean (er, lake) or outside in our bathing suits! We are still working on that (sorry fellow YMCA-ers)! I still put her in a pull-up for naps and at night time. She has a little portable potty in her room and can use that if she needs to pee during nap time or at night (and she often does). She is typically dry when she wakes up in the morning, but I'm not willing to do laundry on the days when she is not! If she falls asleep during nap time, she is only dry maybe 50% of the time.... but since she naps so rarely, it means she's usually dry then too!

She's not a picky eater - she'll typically try almost anything. After trying something new she doesn't always want more, but she is willing to give us a "no thank-you bite". Her favorite breakfast food is by far pancakes (with chocolate chips, oh my!). Whenever we make pancakes (which isn’t all that often) we make a ton of extra ones for her so we can have it for several days. Her favorite lunch options are perogies, chicken nuggets or PB&J as a main portion, and has cheese, veggies and fruits to supplement that. For dinner she eats what we eat, although we give her extra fruit/cheese/veggies/crackers/etc if necessary.

She is a total social butterfly. She is not shy at all and feels completely comfortable walking up to a group of kids and including herself in their play! :) She also has a very small personal zone, so she will happily give strangers hugs and kisses! She likes to ask adults if they have kids, what their mom and dad’s name are, etc. She is starting to ask other kids what their names are (first and middle name - so funny!).

We are teaching her to be polite – saying please, thank-you, no thank-you, excuse me, etc. She typically will say them on her own without being prompted.

When leaving a store or a friend’s house or anywhere when she is holding onto a toy or a box of cupcake batter (for example) that she wants to take but can't, we tell her to give it a hug and kiss and put it back where it belongs. She might be a little sad about it, but she's actually really good about putting things back without complaining!

Her gross motor skills are as they should be. She can run easily over different surfaces. She recently learned how to pedal a tricycle. She goes up and down stairs by alternating feet and without using the wall or handles. She can gallop. She can stand on one leg.

Her fine motor skills are pretty good. She can use utensils (although often just eats with her fingers). She likes to use her fork as a knife to cut things into small pieces - oh my! She is starting to color pictures more or less in the lines (as opposed to just the whole paper). She'll actually have a picture where the general body is one color and other things in the picture are a different color. She can also draw a stick person, with a circle head, 2 dots for eyes, a smile and arms and legs. However, if you weren't watching her draw it and tell you what she was drawing, it's very likely you would not see that in her picture :)

She is starting to hate goodbyes. She does not like it that David has to go to work. Every morning she searches our house for him and then sadly says, "He'll come back at the end of the day". When David puts her to bed at night, she tells him that he is not to go to work without her, he needs to wait for her on the couch. So sad! She frequently tells me not to go anywhere during her nap time or when she goes to bed. And this year, when all of our family left after her birthday, she was really sad. She kept asking people, "Will you be here when I wake up?"

We are starting to have lots of conversations about Jesus. She recently told me, "Kayla loves Jesus, He lives in my heart... and if I ever get lost he will come and hold my hand and help my find mommy." I love the faith of a child.

We just had her 3 year check up. She weighed 32.7lbs (50ish%) and is 37 inches tall (50ish%). She is overall healthy and happy.

For her birthday this year we had both sides of our family come in town. We decided to go to Michigan's Adventure for the day - and we had a BLAST! It was such a gorgeous day outside and we had so much fun! Kayla was quite nervous to go on rides at first, but was quite adventurous by the end! Here are some pictures of that day!

She was beyond spoiled with presents. She loved opening them and is still enjoying playing with all of her new toys and listening to her new CDs in the car!

She got to choose 3 balloons for her 3rd birthday and picked out her cake from Costco!

David got all crafty with her and made a Birthday Count-down chain (since weeks before her birthday she would ask, can I have my birthday cake now?!) and then also made her a piñata to break on her birthday!

We go through some rough times with her behavior, as she is stubborn and smart and knows how to push buttons and chooses to push them. But she is such a sweet and loving girl, we truly treasure having her as our daughter!

August 19, 2010

Busy

Last week I wrote a long blog post that I did not actually post for viewing. After writing everything down, I'm feeling much better! There is something about getting all of my frustrations written down that was very freeing. The gist of the post was that I'm overwhelmed. Completely overwhelmed!

I have a lot of friends who are becoming first time moms this year. In talking with one of them a few weeks ago and in hearing her stories I remember how overwhelmed I was when Kayla was born. Becoming a mother was a huge transition. I remember wondering how you could love someone so helpless and needy so much, yet be beyond frustrated with them due to lack of sleep, finding out reality is different than expectations, not knowing how anything would ever get done (laundry, grocery shopping, feeding myself lunch, etc). Yet with time, somehow I figured it out. And in looking back at it, I wonder what I thought was so hard!

Now I am at that place again, this time with two kids. The specifics I found hard the first time is not what I find hard now. I knew to expect the lack of sleep. I've done the baby thing before and am confident in my mothering skills. However, I am at the stage where I don't see how anything will ever get done! I feel like my life is spinning out of control. And I'm trying to enjoy every minute - even through the chaos - because I know that this time is fleeting and my kids will soon be at different stages. I don't want to wish that this phase goes quickly, because there are so many precious things about it. But, please don't come to my house expecting to see the floor.... it's either covered in toys or in cat hair! Please don't expect my clothes to be neat... no time to iron the clothes that have been left in the dryer for awhile. Please don't expect to see my countertops... they are covered with clean dishes that need to be put away and dirty dishes that need to go in the dishwasher, but the dishwasher needs to be emptied first! Please don't expect to see the kitchen table... it is covered in stacks of paper I piled when it was time to eat dinner! Please don't expect me to be showered (or out of my PJ's for that matter)... that's just not my priority these days! What I hope you would notice is a smile on my kids faces, and maybe one on my face too!!

I wonder at what point I will look back on this stage and say, what was so hard about that?! I don’t expect that to be for a long time!

Now.... maybe one of these days I'll be caught up on my posts. :)

August 09, 2010

A Window Into My Life

So... it is hard to get out of the house with 2 kids! I typically try to nurse Isaac just before we go somewhere, so I have the maximum time out without having to nurse him (then I don’t have to worry about wearing a nursing shirt, finding a place to nurse him and figuring out what to do with Kayla while I nurse him!). So, after he's done I put him in his car seat. He immediately spits up so I put him in with an extra bib in my hand because I know I will immediately have to change it. Sometimes he spits up so much that I have to change his outfit too. I buckle him in so he's ready to go. Then I get Kayla to go to the bathroom before we leave, have to fight her to put her underwear back on, then have her put her shoes on as I pack up a drink and a snack for her (thank goodness she is at least able to go to the bathroom and put her shoes on all by herself!). When I turn my back, she’s climbed into the car seat and is hugging Isaac and trying to give him toys. I remind her to put on her shoes. I do her hair, do my hair, and then make sure the diaper bag is stocked with wipes, diapers, burp clothes and extra bibs for Isaac and a change of clothes for both kids. Then I have to tell Kayla to switch her shoes because they are inevitably on the wrong feet! Then Isaac fills his pants and I have to pull him out of the car seat, change his diaper and get him back in (at which point he spits up again, thus requiring another bib change). And by this time, Kayla has taken her shoes back off and pulled the bow out of her hair and we have to start the process again! :) Obviously it's not always like this, but sometimes I feel like they gang up against me so that it's nearly impossible for me to get out of the house!

Can anyone else relate??!!

August 03, 2010

Isaac's 4th Month

There's not a ton of new things to report this month, it seems time is just flying by!

He is started to laugh more and more. Kayla gets him to laugh more than David and I can combined - he is just so in love with her, and she with him! She is so cute with him, although she daily/hourly/every! single! minute! struggles with how to be gentle with him. My goodness it is so frustrating for me! I am constantly saying things like, "Kayla, don't lay on top of him... Kayla, don't put your fingers/that toy in his mouth... Kayla, don't push on his belly..... Kayla, don't do that, just leave him alone, just stop touching him for 10 seconds!" Sometimes I tell her that if I have to scold her again for not being gentle then she'll need to take a 5 minute break from playing with him. Whenever that happens she just breaks down in tears and promises to be more gentle and says she just loves him and wants to play with him. It doesn't help that he rarely, very rarely ever does anything but laugh, smile and goo* at her, even when she is man-handling him. He is so laid back and easy going, which is great! But it doesn't make my threats that she's hurting him very credible with her!

* We used to call it coo-ing, but Kayla picked up goo-ing and says, "Isaac is goo-ing at me!"

Here is a video of them interacting and another!

He is still at 7 feeding each day, typically up once at night. Sometimes his 1st morning feeding is early enough that it's almost still in the middle of the night! So, we have good nights and bad nights, but the good outweighs the bad by far. He is still being swaddled and still in the bassinette attached to our bed. I love the way he stretches when he is unswaddled!!

He LOVES his swing, and I LOVE his swing. He currently takes most of his naps in there. Just recently I've started to have to strap him in because would lean over and be laying almost half out! My goal in the next month or so is to transition him to his crib to take naps... I do realize he can't nap in the swing forever! But it is nice that he sleeps so well in there, I'm not anxious to give that up! Hopefully he continues to nap well when I transition him into the crib - we'll see! He isn't in any sort of schedule/routine yet... he eats and sleeps whenever. Ideally, when he is consistently napping 2-3 times a day he'll be able to take some of those in his crib. We'll see :)
He's starting to crave attention and will "chat" at us to get us to look at him, smile at him, pick him up! Every day he is getting more and more interactive and fun! He loves peek-a-boo, loves to play with toys, loves to put everything in his mouth (specifically his fingers and his bibs!).
He's motivated to try and roll over but isn't hugely successful yet. But he can scoot on his back and also turn himself 90 degrees so he can't be left near anything dangerous anymore! Several times I've left him on his back and had to run into the other room and when I come back he is on his belly! But mostly he just rolls from side to side.

He enjoys tummy time these days and is getting better and stronger every day (er, every day that I remember to give him tummy time!).

At his 4 month check-up at the Dr he weighed 14lbs 3oz (50%) and was 25 1/2 inches long (75%) and had a head circumference of 16 1/2 (50%). He is staying on the same growth curve since birth, so that is good! He got a great report from the doctor. He (not surprisingly) disliked the shots. And oh how I hate the cries babies give when they are given these shots and can't be warned of the pain about to come! Thankfully, he stopped crying almost immediately after I picked him up. Then he slept most of the next 48 hours! Apparently those shots made him really really tired!

July 31, 2010

It Takes a Village to Raise a Child

Well, I started this post in May but am just now getting around to finishing it. Oops! Having 2 really does cut down on my free time! :)

There is a famous African proverb that says, "It takes a village to raise a child". I find this saying to be true, and sad; sad because all of our family lives far away. However, we have been so incredibly blessed with all of the help we received when Isaac was born.

When I had Kayla, I didn't think I wanted help at the beginning. I wanted us to be alone, let us figure out our child, let us learn how to parent and not have other people give us advice... we wanted to learn for ourselves. However, I did receive a lot of help last time, and it was SO BENEFICIAL. This time around, I knew I wanted help. Not so much help with the baby, but help with Kayla. So... we lined up visits from both of our parents!!

My parents planned to drive out to Michigan for Easter weekend and my mom was staying for 2 weeks. That meant she'd be here a week before and a week after my due date. Of course, the baby would come whenever he/she was ready... but we thought it would be most likely to come during that time. Of course, Isaac came 11 days early! But my mom bought a plane ticket and was here the next day! She was able to stay with Kayla our 2nd night in the hospital, and was then in town for almost 3 weeks to help out. She went grocery shopping, she made meals, she took care of Kayla, she helped me out with household chores, etc. It was an incredible blessing to have her here to help.



My dad came in town for Easter and then was back in town to drive her home, and then I had my first 4 days home alone with the 2 kids. It went much better than I'd expected. Then, my in-laws came in town for a long weekend and my mother-in-law stayed for 2 weeks. So by the time Isaac was 6 weeks old, I'd spent only 4 days alone with the 2! What an incredible blessing! My MIL did shopping, cooking, playing with Kayla, making her dresses, helping with household chores, etc! With both mom's, I was able to truly focus all of my attention on Isaac, bond with him, learn about him and enjoy him.... and I was able to let them take over most of the "parenting" of Kayla. Of course I still spent time with her, still played with her, etc.... but I was able to do that when Isaac was sleeping instead of trying to juggle nursing/cuddling him and dealing with her. I realized that at some point that would be necessary, however, it was nice to postpone reality for 6 weeks! By that time, Kayla understood that I would spend time nursing Isaac and taking care of his needs, but that I also had time to take care of her and her needs. It made our transition SO MUCH EASIER than I'd expected. I can't thank my mom and my MIL enough for their sacrifices they made to help us out.



Times like these make me sad that we don't have family in town. I suppose if they were in town, they wouldn't have spent a few weeks at a time helping us out! But it was so nice to have family support. And even though they live far away, they made huge efforts to help us out in our time of transition, and I will be forever grateful to them for making the first 6 weeks of having 2 children so enjoyable and so stress-free, and for helping make the transition of me being alone with the 2 so easy. That time I was able to spend bonding with Isaac was precious and I am so thankful that I had help so that I was able to do that.