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May 22, 2011

The Move

Wow, talk about a whirlwind! This move was CRAZY! I honestly hope that I never have to move again. Or, if I do, that someone else is paying to pack everything up for me because WOW! Moving is difficult.

We had a really tight time schedule to actually get things ready to go. The people buying our house scheduled the inspection for the last possible day, Friday the 13th of May. We didn't want to completely disassemble our house before that time so it would be in good looking condition when they saw the house again. So, we did minimal packing before that time. We packed away clothes and kitchen stuff we knew we wouldn't need between then and when we were out of the house and figured out exactly how we were going to get our stuff down to NC. Originally we had talked about renting a U-Haul truck, loading it up and trailing David's car behind while I drove separately in my car. But, as soon as we got down to NC we would need to get a storage unit to unpack everything in and then we'd need to store it until we bought our house (and then load everything up into a moving truck and unload it at our house eventually). We decided it would be a better idea to use a Pod where we could have several days to load things into it and then someone else would transport it for us, so we could each drive our car, not trail one. Also, then it would be in storage down in NC, meaning we did not need to unload it as soon as we got there. Of course, I was newly pregnant and was beyond exhausted, and at night times I started to feel sick and was throwing up. And of course, the best time to do your more productive packing is after the kids have gone to bed, so it was really a bad combination. The day after they did their inspections we had U-Haul drop off their version of the Pods. We got 5 of them, but hoped we'd be able to fit all of our stuff in 4 (yeah... we totally filled the 5 TO THE BRIM). It was a little bit more expensive to do it this way, however, in the end we were so extremely happy with our decision and I'd highly recommend using them to anyone.

The morning they were being delivered was also the morning of the 5/3 Riverbank 5k run, which I signed up for to run on the Bank of Holland team! Even though I was feeling so worn down with the pregnancy and all I had going on, it was fun to run!




I made it back in time to see them being delivered! They took up our entire driveway!




We started loading them immediately with all the boxes we had packed away. Also, that day a few friends and neighbors helped us to unload the storage unit that we had rented when we put our house on the market. So, we were able to load all of that stuff into the Pods as well. That night we were hosting a mini going-away party, so we could see all of our friends who could make it and say our good-byes. I was trying to pack, watch the kids, cook dinner, etc while David was off at the storage unit loading things up. Thankfully my friend Amanda came over to help watch the kids for me too! About 2 hours before people were supposed to arrive I was wondering where David was, I had expected them to be home from the storage unit by now. I called David and our friend James answered his phone and said that everything was ok, but that they were headed to Urgent Care and that David couldn't talk right now!!!!!!!!!!! Are you kidding me??!! Apparently, he lifted one of the boxes from the floor and scraped the top of his hand on a stray metal bar of the storage unit. He must have hit a blood vessel because there was a lot of blood (so I am told). Thankfully, he was ok and was even seen by the Dr quickly. Six stitches and about an hour and a half later he was on his way home, arriving at the house the same time everyone else was showing up! Yikes! We thought he was going to be told that he wasn't able to lift anything more than XXX lbs, which would have been a huge problem, but he was told he could do whatever his pain threshold would allow!

We enjoyed seeing everyone one last time. Unfortunately since he and James had lost 2 hours in packing/unpacking of the stuff from the storage unit, several of the guys who came spent their time helping us unload the cars with stuff from the storage units and getting it into the Pods. That was a bummer that they weren't able to relax and David couldn't be inside chatting with everyone, but it was so helpful to have all that help and to get all of that done.

My dad had a wedding to go to on Saturday evening, but after the wedding he got in the car and drove several hours. Then he finished the drive on Sunday and was there Sunday late afternoon to help us get out of the house! We were so thankful for his help; we could not have done it without him. As soon as he was out of the car he dug right into getting things put in the Pods and helping us pack things up in the house. It was our goal to leave on Wednesday and do the drive in 2 days, so we would have a long weekend to unpack the 2 cars and start to settle in before David had to start work. We only hoped we could get everything packed in that short of a timeframe! Amazingly, we were able to get everything in the Pods by Tuesday late afternoon, and U-Haul came back over to pick them up. The weight limit on the Pods was 2000 lbs each, but of course there is no scale on them, so you just have to do your best to guess how much things weigh, and try to put the heaviest items (piano, safe, freezer, furniture, etc) in different Pods. Well, the U-Haul lady was BARELY able to lift them. All 5 were over the weight limit and 2 of them were almost so heavy that she couldn't lift them back onto the truck. The problem with them being so heavy isn't necessarily that they boxes can't handle the weight, it's the fork lift that they bring to the house can only lift so much before it would start to tip! So.... I was really, really nervous as she lifted all of our belongings up in the air and onto the truck! We had insurance on them, but still! Yikes! But, she was able to lift all 5 and only asked us to take a few things out of 1 of them (and we took something very minimal out just to see if that would be acceptable to her!). Now the task was getting all the remaining stuff from inside the house into the cars. We had our suitcases filled with clothes for the first week that we needed, toys and things to entertain the kids in the car ride, and all of the stuff we were still using in our kitchen (dishes had all been removed previously, but things like Tupperware that was in the fridge and dishwasher, food items in the pantry that we were using up until the end, cleaning supplies, towels, bed stuff, etc. We had hoped to leave Wednesday morning. My dad was taking the cats with him, since they were not able to come into the Taylor's household (they already have a dog and a cat and they were worried about how things would be with 2 additional cats). We filled his car to the brim with the cats and their stuff, and then anything else we knew we wouldn't need for months (like all our bedding stuff, hangers, other things that take up space) and he headed out of town before 10am (he needed to leave early enough so he could do the 13 hours drive in 1 day, since he couldn't really stop with the cats). I was quite concerned that they would whine all the way and it would be a miserable trip for them. But they did great!

We had also hoped to take off in the morning, but that totally didn't happen. By the time my dad left we had everything out of the house and everything moved in the kitchen. But, our cars were pretty full, so David had to shove things here and there and everywhere to try to get everything fit inside. I was also trying to clean the house (vacuum the floors, clean the bathrooms, clean the kitchen and fridge, etc) and we had the kids to watch and keep out of the rest of the house too! Thankfully our friend Linda was able to watch Kayla for a few hours in the afternoon, and we put Isaac down for a nap so that we could both work hard. We didn't end up leaving town until nearly 4pm! I had no idea that all of the last minute stuff would take so long. I was so completely exhausted by this point. Since I started getting sick around 8pm, we knew we couldn't drive much past that. And if we didn't leave by 4, it would hardly even be worth starting the drive. But, we didn't have anything in the house anymore so we had to get on the road. We spent a moment alone in our house after the kids were buckled in their car seats and said our final good-bye to our house. I know a house is only a man-made object, but that home has so many sweet memories for us it was really sad to say goodbye. I got a little teary eyed at thinking about this being the last time we'd be in our first house, and then it was on the road. We had the mini-van loaded so high that there was only a teeny tiny opening to see out the side-view mirror. The kids were in David's car (since we had the van loaded to the gills, and in fact had moved the middle seats of our van into a Pod) and that was crammed full of stuff too. And, we had a car-top-carrier (which I call a Bubble!) on top of the car, and some kids toys tied up on the van as well. And David and Kayla's bikes were on the bike rack on the Honda. It was a scene to behold! We made it about 4 hours on the road before quitting for the night and overall it went really well. The next day went well too. We took turns driving each car, as they both had their own issues. The minivan was hard to drive because you couldn't see out the back and had trouble seeing out the side, so it was like you were driving blind. And the Honda had the 2 kids with no helping adult. So, both were hard work! But, we made it to the Taylor's house by about 10pm, completely exhausted, but so happy to be at our destination. On our way down we joked that we were homeless! :) But, in all reality while we don't have a place to call (our) home, we are so blessed with our situation.




Now, we have to unload both of our cars, and in a week when the Pods get down here, we will have to unload 1 of them! So thankful we don't have to unload all of them right now!!!

May 18, 2011

Final GR Fun

We were able to go and do visit some of our favotire GR places before we left town. After David was done with work we had a few days to ourselves to pack the house like crazy! But, we were able to make a trip to the Children's Museum. Boy are we going to miss this place!




We participated in the Bright Beginnings program and they had a special event at Meijer Garden's that we attended. Boy are we going to miss THIS place!




It was cold too, but I couldn't keep my little water baby away from this place!


Kayla missed her actual last day of preschool, since it was the same day David needed to be at his new job in NC. But they had a Family Fun Day at a park as their 2nd to last day that we were able to enjoy! Kayla loved her preschool and her teachers, as did I. I am so thankful that I was able to send her there this year and can only hope that I find another preschool for her next year where I can be this happy!




May 12, 2011

Change

Hm... where to begin. Well, awhile ago I start journaling a past called "The Post that Wasn't". I jotted down some of my feelings as we journeyed through life, but I knew that it wasn't something I'd ever be able to post. Even now, it's not something I necessarily want to post. But I suppose some of it will come to life in this "journal entry".

When David and I graduated from Calvin we were searching for where we wanted to live. We decided that we wanted to live near my parents in MA, a high tech savvy area where David should be able to find a great job. However, God laughed at our plan and both of us searched for jobs to no avail. On a whim we went to visit friends in MI and pick up a few things we'd left from college. While we were out here we decided that it wouldn't hurt to test the job market. David had 2 interviews in the 3 days we were there (which was more than he had in the several months we'd searched in MA). On our drive back to MA, we did a lot of talking and a lot of praying, and really felt that God was opening doors for us to move back to MI. So, we did. And God nearly immediately provided a job for David doing exactly what he wanted to do. Clearly God was faithful to us and made our transition better than we could have expected. It was not easy, not everything worked out perfectly (my horrible job, for example), but God provided for us. We did not anticipate living in MI for forever, but we saw it as a great short-term home. A year later we bought our house and thought we'd be in it for 5 years (that was 2003!). Two cats and two kids later, we are still living in and loving that house! But, David's satisfaction at work was dwindling and we did not want to send Kayla to the GR public school system, so we thought about what it would look like to move to a different area of GR. The more we talked about it, the more we wondered if that was really what we wanted. We had always thought that one day we might move near our family, and we were wondering what it would be like to do it now.

Over the course of the last several years, God has been moving in my heart too. Because we live so far away from David's siblings, our relationships are not as strong as they could be if we lived closer. Each time we get together with his family, I'm struck by how much I really truly love his siblings, as though they were my own siblings, and I mourn the fact that we only get to see them once or twice a year. When Isaac was born, Steph didn't get to see him until he was nearly 6 months old. I remember her saying that is totally unacceptable, that she should have a nephew that she didn't get to see for so long. At Christmas Brian asked if we thought Isaac would be walking and talking by next Thanksgiving! He said that's probably the next time he'd see us! That about broke my heart. As our kids grow up, I really want them to know their Aunts and Uncles, and they just aren't getting the chance to do so. And I hope one day they'll have cousins, and I'd love for my kids to grow up near their cousins. We get to see both sets of grandparents pretty frequently, considering the distance. But David's siblings, not so much. In some ways it kills me to not live near my own parents. I'm an only child, and I've provided their only possible grandchildren. And we live far away. I hate that. Moving near my parents would solve the issue of not having any family close, but it would not solve the issue of not seeing David's siblings. And I really feel that God has been working in my heart to really start to desire to move closer to them.

After Steph's wedding in October, we started having serious conversations about moving to NC. David got a recruiter down there, and also one in MI and started looking for jobs. He had a series of interviews for a job here in GR in December, and it was pretty clear that they were going to offer him a job when we were back in town in Jan. Over Christmas vacation we did a lot of talking about what we wanted in life. Should he take the new job in GR? If he did, it would commit us to staying in GR for several more years. Or, did we want to open yourselves up to the possibility of a cross country move? We decided we would prepare ourselves for the opportunity of a move, and leave the details up to God. If it was part of His will for us to move, then he would make it possible. If it was part of His will for us to stay, He would make that pretty clear to us as well.

In January we went to Target and bought some large storage containers. We started to de-clutter our house. We got rid of a lot of things we didn't use or didn't want/need. We sold things on craigslist. We painted our room, the dining room and the entryway and upstairs hallway. We finished up projects that needed to be done. We worked hard in January and February to get our house ready for the market. We rented a storage unit and got rid of the things that needed to get out of the house. In March we put our house on the market. We prayed. We prayed that God would make it clear, one way or another, what His will for our lives was. We knew that it would be a miracle if he could find a job and we sold our house at the same time. We prayed for a miracle, but also realized that more than likely one would come before the other. So we planned for what it would look like to sell our house first and move into temporary housing in GR, or what it would look like for David to start a new job and either me and the kids stay in MI til the house sold, we stage our house and leave it furnished but all move to NC, we take everything and try to sell a vacant house, or we rent it out.

David resumed his job searching (he stopped while we spent the majority of our free time getting the house ready). We prayed.

I went out of town the first week in April and while I was gone David did a lot of job searching and making phone calls to people. I came back in town on April 12th. That Friday the 15th he had a phone interview that went really well. They wanted him to come down to NC for a face-to-face. He decided to do another phone interview to get a few more questions answered before we made the investment of buying a ticket, not to mention the time he'd be away. He did that on Wednesday. They still wanted him to come down, and they wanted him soon. That Friday was Good Friday and he had the day off of work already. He had a major work release the following week and he knew he could not go out of town during that time (not to mention that he would have to fake a reason why he wasn't at work). I booked him a ticket Wednesday afternoon for him to leave first thing Friday morning. We bought trip insurance in case the plane was delayed (since he only had that day to meet them, if he arrived late he wouldn't be able to do the interview). He made it there on time. He had a great meeting. He was offered the job later that afternoon. He flew home Saturday evening and after talking it over he accepted it on Sunday evening. He put in his 2 weeks’ notice at work on Tuesday, after all the paperwork had been filled out making it official. We met with our real estate agent and decided to lower the price on our house by $15,000 (OUCH) and do an Open House the following Sunday. A couple came through the Open House and loved it. They came back again to the Open House with one set of parents. They knocked on our door that evening with the other set of parents and asked if they could walk through it one more time. They put in an offer on Monday. We countered on Tuesday. They accepted on Wednesday. Our miracle happened.

That afternoon I started feeling sick. I figured it was my body's way of processing all the stress in our lives. But then I felt sick all day Thursday. And all day Friday. And I thought, “my this is an awfully familiar feeling”. So we bought a pregnancy test. I took it Saturday morning and it was positive! What a 2 week span this was! God's faithfulness to us, and God's surprise to us! Again, it's like God wanted to say to us, "I'll give you the miracle you were asking for (getting a job and selling our house at the same time) and I'll give you a miracle you didn't know you were asking for (having another child)." [I am writing this several months in hindsight....] Sometimes it's really hard to imagine what our life is going to be with 3 little ones. I am overwhelmed so often with 2 that I don't know how I can handle having 3. This would not have been our choice of timing (as we were moving across the country, trying to settle in, etc. Also, the baby is due at Christmas, not my first choice), but it is SO CLEARLY God's choice for us, that how can I even doubt God's plan? God won't give me more than I can handle, and while I currently find that hard to believe, I know it is true. And I'm so thankful that He is faithful and will provide for our family.

This year is bringing on a lot of change, but I'm excited for it, and excited for what God has in store for our lives.

May 09, 2011

Tulip Time + Mother's Day

We wanted to make sure we hit Tulip Time this year, since it would be our last. We spent several hours at Kinderplaats and both of the kids had such a great time! The weather was perfect, it was really a fun-filled family day. Their favorite parts of the day were all the inflatables and the petting zoo! Of course, this was the morning that I took a positive pregnancy test, so David and I were also in a little bit of shock!



Later that day we met up with our friends Brian and Jeni and their kids Anna and Jack. We looked at some tulips and ate some ice cream!



This is one of those annual events that we will greatly miss.

For Mother's Day David got me a giant cookie that said "Mom x3"!




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